10 Myths About Being Unstoppable No One Talks About

Premiere of Unstoppable – The Podcast with Nicole Isler! What does being unstoppable really mean? Is life all glitter and rainbows? Even if not, you can be unstoppable in your own life!

Pulling the curtain back on 10 myths and the actual truth about being unstoppable you need to know! The things no one really talks about, real talk – what being unstoppable looks like and feels like.

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Who Are Your Typical Clients?

I’m asked this question a lot. And while I like to sum it up as badass women I respect, admire and feel honored to work with, there are more layers to it that make them badass.

Most of the women I work with have some insight into their challenges and want support as they navigate their way through life changes.

They are the one that everyone goes to for help but when they need help, they feel alone. Truth be told, they have a hard time asking for help, so it takes them awhile to finally reach out to me. When they do they say things like “I should be able to figure this out” and “I don’t know why I can’t just get this done”.

They prefer to stay tough and never really let anyone in, that way no one can let them down. They are a bit of a control freak in that way. Over-functioning doing everything for everyone and trying to do everything on their own.

They are the self-starter who digs right in and yet, the patterns stay the same which is what feels so frustrating for them.

They get more done in a day than many people get done in a week, people may even joke they’re like “the energizer bunny”, they just go-go-go. But secretly they are exhausted and overextended energetically and emotionally and they don’t seem to get any credit for all they do.

They want to save the world, but they can’t seem to pinpoint how to save themselves. The amount of pressure and demand they put on themselves to do more and be perfect at it would drop most people to their knees, and yet, it’s never enough no matter how much they overachieve, they just keep pushing.

They may be tangled in relationships that feel “off” but can’t quite pinpoint what is wrong or how to change it, but they will try, taking all the reigns of responsibility or blame, whatever will hopefully make things better. But in most cases it does not, the dynamics are programmed to be one way, not in their favor.

Some are women who are trying to “do it all” eventually causing overwhelm. They are not replenishing their soul, merely taking direction from their ego as it barks out orders to be more and do more. There is no permission or time for play, they focus on satisfaction not joy which depletes their spirit and zest for life.

Many of my clients are in the afternoon of their life or on their way, feeling depleted, depressed, lost. They have spent the morning of their life giving to others, some put their own dreams, desires, needs and wants on hold, as they cared for children, partners, and parents.

They wake up and realize time is precious, they feel shocked and saddened at the realness of what they feel about all they wanted to accomplish but denied themselves of. They need someone to help them understand the awakening they are going through. I have been there myself and I completely know the feeling + how to embrace the shift to quickly find fulfillment.

Many have experienced trauma in their lives, especially childhood which sets up a pattern that can trigger chronic anxiety, depression, fluctuating emotions.

Some develop addictions to try and fill the void like shopping, eating, over-functioning, over-committing or even the use of alcohol, drugs or prescription meds and therapy that doesn’t work for them. Anything to keep the feelings they don’t want down by distraction or escape.

They want to bring healing to these areas. They reach out to me because they know what they have been doing to get by no longer supports them.

They know they want to shift but feel unclear how to change what they don’t want, a bit overwhelmed on where to begin, this feeling of perfection continues to creep in with the fear that I’ll find fault with them in some way.

Of course, that is not what I do at all, but the feeling of being wrong or missing something obvious scares them. It leaves them feeling vulnerable and that is just not a place they like to go.

But over time the learn to trust me, they see I made my way through struggles of my own. They see I am sincere, genuine and here to help because I understand from a place of experience how it feels to live this way – even though you want things to be different. They reach out because they finally see I won’t judge them, that my whole heart is in what I do.

Here’s what one of my clients shared about her experience working with me.

“If your struggling with obstacles in your life and are trying to find someone who will understand you, then you found the right person in Nicole. She understands as she has lived through many of life’s lessons herself. She is a kind and very caring person who can help you find your way. Her dedication goes far and beyond what most people would invest. Not everyone is guided by Angel’s like she is!! 😇. She will definitely make sense out of your nonsense! She has for me.” ❤- Pat B

I understand the women I work with just need some intuitive support from a qualified person who has compassion. Someone they can lean into as they process things, who can show them the deeper meaning, shine the light on the truth about who they are and transform the way they feel about themselves.

I hold a safe-space for my clients until they can do it for themselves. I believe in them. I care about their dreams as if they are my own.

I am honored to be the person to work alongside them, who helps them find the answers hidden in plain view to change how they feel for good, to help them heal their inner child.. And someone who makes them feel empowered every step of the way.

If you resonate with this or you know a woman who struggles in this way, I am here to understand and to help.

Life is increasingly stressful these days and moving at a rapid, emotional pace. While we have advanced so far with technology, access to information and material gains, rates of depression, chronic dis-ease, and suicide continue to climb.

I want to help change that. Life is meant to be a beautiful adventure, where you experience the most joy for all you contribute and accomplish. I know that’s what I most want to experience and it’s what I want my clients to experience unlimited amounts of.

Whatever challenges you face or feel deep within, you can overcome them. I’m here to help you.

What To Do When Things Don’t Work Out – so things can work out! (and you don’t find yourself in Victimville!)

Are you in a bad feeling place? Finding it hard to deal with the negative things that pop up?

Myyyylanta there’s plenty to choose from out in the world right now!

And well, not everything happens the way you might have planned, and it can be disappointing. I get it, my 50th birthday plans were cancelled this week.

Might not seem that important compared to world events, but hey, it’s MY 50th birthday and it’s important to me.

Not because I’m not jetting off to Walt Disney World as planned, although that’s a bummer too, but because my son was flying in to join me. So he’s still in CO and I’m still in WI. And that’s what I’m most sad about. I won’t get to see him this week for my birthday.

I know how it feels when things fall apart, how you might want to feel “bad” about it. 

There’s plenty of opportunity – to fall into a funk – or to choose to shift your perspective instead!

This week I’m talking about The Law of Relativity + I’m sharing magical things you can do every day to rock your life so you don’t block all the goodness that wants to unfold for you!

Signs You’re In The Funk Of It.

  • You see your circumstances as “good or bad”, so it’s “all or nothing” on your happiness
  • You feel bad, sad, angry, bitter, mistrusting, resentful or any other emotion for an extended period of time – and it’s building.
  • You’re stuck in guilt. “I shouldn’t be feeling this way when others have it so much worse” or you just won’t let yourself focus on anything positive for that reason.
  • You have a victim mindset and you’re stuck in Victimville with “poor me” or wanting everyone to feel bad for you.
  • You’re attached to the outcome and because it didn’t happen, you can’t bring yourself to feel positive or focus on anything else. Your mind keeps going to what didn’t happen.

Why Shift

  • You don’t want to stay in crummy mode longer than necessary obviously!
  • Staying in the funk too long can become an identity and changes your vibration!
  • You close down for soul-utions, insights, flow and answers!

How + What to do to shift!

  • Allow your feelings to come up, come out, however you want to describe them – just be present with how you feel. Don’t ignore or stuff them down, honor your feelings.
  • Only once you’ve done that, shift your focus to shift your energy. What is positive? Uplifting? Focus there!
  • Detach from the outcome as good or bad or anything at all other than an opportunity to shift your perspective to something that feels good for you!
  • Create your own joy and happiness! You don’t need an outcome to do that, or a special holiday, you can celebrate every day.
  • Replace whatever didn’t work out with something else that feels fabulous! I’ve replaced my Disney trip with bigger goals, and so many fun things that it really feels just like it is supposed to when I turn 50! Like a huge bash!
  • Focus on the goodness in your life, talk about it, magnify it, share it with others!
  • Move away from defining things as good or bad, all or nothing and just let them exist as is.
  • And most importantly – live your life, every day ON PURPOSE! (not for an outcome) I don’t know what life would feel like without my purpose. This is what keeps my life feeling magical and so so sparkly. I highly recommend getting in touch with your purpose – and if you don’t know what that is or how to find it, apply to work with me and we can explore and reveal it together!

Are you a sensitive with chronic confidence + empowerment struggles?

As a sensitive do you find it hard to be true to yourself? Do you have beautiful ideas and messages but you don’t share them because you worry what others will think, or what they will say?

It can feel really hard to be yourself when the whole world is telling you what to do or pointing out what you’re doing wrong.

And unfortunately this is a chronic problem – but of course fortunately, it doesn’t have to be for you!

Reasons why many sensitives – maybe you – struggle with confidence and empowerment.

  • You just don’t want to upset anyone. So you’re more focused on not upsetting anyone than honoring what you want or how you feel.
  • You’re afraid of what others think – again more than how you feel.
  • You fall into the “you should” trap, doing what others say “you should” do.
  • You’ve been told you’re “too sensitive” and – you believe it.
  • You were laughed at for being a dreamer, for being yourself or having original ideas.

How can you step out and be yourself in a world full of opinions about who you should be?

  • Be your own filter. Only you get to decide what’s a match for you, what’s best for you.
  • Be selective. Not everything every suggests for you or tells you to do is right for you.
  • Be aware of messages around you laced with guilt, anger, bitterness and negativity.
  • Move away from people who minimize you or only point out your mistakes.

Have consequences set in?

  • What are you suffering with? What seems to come up chronically for you? Energy, emotionally or any other area of your life?
  • What are you carrying or holding onto? What feels like you just can’t seem to get past? And how is it impacting you?
  • How do you feel about yourself? If it’s not positive, loving and empowering, when would now be a good time to change?
  • What are you missing out on? What would you be doing, enjoying and going for if you had more confidence and felt more empowered?

SET YOURSELF FREE!

  • Your power is not “out there”. Take ownership of what you want get to changing what you don’t want.
  • Don’t base your happiness on someone else changing. Focus on you and what you can do.
  • Your circumstances are only what is. They are not what is possible for you unless you only focus on what is.
  • Above all remember YOU ARE THE POWER. You are your best source of strength and anything else you want.

Getting through this together vs. Enjoying all that is NOW

Are you caught up in thoughts of “getting through this” or moving your focus to staying empowered and “being present”?

While saying “we’ll get through this together” holds some power and hope, it’s not where you want your focus to stay.

If you do, you may find your thoughts feeling stuck, focusing on what you cannot do, feeling trapped and always looking to “when” things get better instead of living your best life NOW.

In this video I’m sharing tips to help you live fully from right where you are, signs you’re not present, why it’s soul good to be present and how to be present!

Signs You’re Not Present

  1. If you’re focused on what you could do before that you cannot do now.
  2. You feel down, depressed, anxious, off or angry – you just feel bad.
  3. You are focused on what is unknown, and scared!
  4. You’re worried about the future and what has not happened yet.
  5. You are not taking care of yourself, ignoring your energy needs or turning to negative things to try and feel better

Why Be Present

  1. For the health of your energy + emotions (which are energy in motion)
  2. The longer you feel off or dwell in those not-so-good-feelings or thoughts, the more you increase the chance that you’ll fall ill.
  3. You can handle more with less stress, more effortlessly.
  4. You increase EASE for yourself and your efforts.
  5. You’re open to receive downloads, soul-utions and insights.

How To Be Present

  1. Focus on your purpose. Now is the time to get clear on your purpose!
  2. Connect with positive people and build those relationships.
  3. Reframe the negative. Practice conscious-rethinking.
  4. Use your senses to center.
  5. Get support, even hire an expert if you need to.

What Next? (Get support!)

  1. Reach out to me! I’m here to chat with you about how you’re feeling. I’ll help match you with the right resource FOR YOU.
  2. New energy and mindset skills take practice.
  3. It’s important to get support + mentoring from the right people and experts.
  4. Implementing positive things to focus on for yourself!
  5. The best you can do, learn the most about you, your gifts, your purpose!

Loaded with goodness right? I’m here to help!

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What Your Ego & the Media Have In Common

Has your ego been acting up? Do you feel like your fear and anxiety are fired up more easily lately?

It could be what’s going on around you – and – what’s being shared in the media, or more like how the information is being shared.

A few things to be aware of about your ego (& the media) to keep your dreams strong:

Your ego loves to take things out of context. Throwing random parts of the past at you while stirring up what could go wrong, based on who you used to be not who you have become.

From there, it will build a story with scary details, using fear to distort the perspective. Definitely not providing all the positive details or any for that matter, because it never includes all the facts, like how far you’ve already come or how much you’ve overcome.

Keep in mind your ego is geared to look for danger, to help you stay aware of what could go wrong, with the eye on finding tragedy and problems. Not very comforting right? But the intention is to make you aware.

You’re told to “be careful”, cautious or taught to worry as a precaution, but worrying is silly. Worry is not the same as staying informed from an empowered state.

So what can you do during times of great uncertainty?

Well for one, make sure you get an accurate perspective. The whole picture. All the lessons you’ve learned, all the details, not just the negative ones. Bring presence to all the facts that matter to bring yourself and your perspective into balance.

Look for the good in all things, in your daily life, circumstances and all around you. You will always find what you’re looking for. There is more good in the world than we typically give credit or acknowledgement to.

Mindset means setting your mind on what you want, not letting your thoughts run wild. Focus on what you can do something about and what is working for you. Magnify that!

While you’re at it, identify what is not working or not resonating with you and – eliminate it! Get rid of unwanted things, activities, relationships.

Remember you can always turn toward more ease within. You have the power of choice, to assess and make changes.

Because how you FEEL as a sensitive matters more than anything. But how you FEEL is up to you.

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“I DON’T HAVE TIME!” – Is that YOU?

Have you ever said “I don’t have time”? Or wished you had “more time”? Does it feel like you never have “enough time” to do what’s most meaningful for you?

What comes up for you about TIME?

4 Myths of Time Management

  • There are people who believe they can “get more time”. You cannot get more time, you have all the time there is. You get the same amount, every day.
  • There are some people who believe they can “save time”, bank it, use it later. Not only do you have all the time there is, but you have to spend it every day.
  • There are some people who believe you can “manage time.” You cannot manage time, it marches on, it slows down for no one.
  • There are some people who believe they do not have “enough time”. Everyone has enough time. It’s the one thing everyone has the exact same amount of.

So getting more of what you want is not about the time you have it’s about how you use your time, what you fill your time with. If your time is filled with things you don’t want, don’t like, don’t feel good about – you open the door to stress!

Ugh, hello STRESS!

Stress happens when we think or feel that we can’t cope with pressure and this pressure comes in many shapes and forms, and triggers physiological responses. (Fight or Flight)

Many day-to-day situations can set off your fight or flight response – moving, a difficult boss, divorce, separation, demanding children, traffic jams, project deadlines, etc.

Pressure itself is not bad. In fact, many thrive on it. But when those pressures exceed a person’s ability to cope, that’s when the problems start. It follows, therefore, that we can tackle stress either by reducing pressures or by increasing coping resources – or a combination of the two.

Did you know that if you’re highly stressed, you are 25% more likely to suffer a fatal heart attack and 50% more likely to die from a stroke?

The symptoms of stress act as an early warning system. They tell you that you are getting out of balance, that your energy is decreasing and pressure is increasing. Are you noticing signs of stress? Are you listening? Making necessary changes?

What are the top 3 things you stress about most? Which one do you think about most often?

Let’s talk ENERGY.

Everything is energy. Everything you can see, feel, hear or touch is energy in motion. That’s why it’s so important to have flow and movement in your energy. When you don’t, you can feel stuck. That will slow down or bring your progress to a halt.

Living fully is more than just having enough physical energy to get through your day. You are a blend of physical, mental, emotional and spiritual energy. As you increase your energy, you increase the ability to handle more demands.

WHY SENSITIVES STRESS MORE AND BURNOUT

  1. They say yes to too many things – even things they want to say no to.
  2. Not clear on their goals, direction so they try all things or talk themselves into things they don’t want to do but think they should.
  3. Lack of belief they can do what they want – or say not to what they don’t want.
  4. People problems, guilt trips, toxic relationships take over and influence their decisions, direction and energy.
  5. Put too much pressure, condense timelines mentally – just try to do too much all the time without a plan, energy strategy or aligned approach.
  6. Don’t have the energy skills to expand time to meet their needs! This drives all of the above!

If you’re resonating with any of those – it’s time for a new approach! I can help.

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A surprising reason you may feel down, lonely, or even depressed

5 reasons you may feel down, lonely or even depressed – one may really surprise you!

Do any resonate or feel like you?

  1. You’re not clear on what you want or why, which opens the door for limiting beliefs to pour in. You feel like you should be doing something but you’re confused and stuck while the negative thoughts swirl around in your head.
  2. You’re focused on the wrong things, perhaps doing what you think you should do not what you feel called to do. Oh boy this can really send you down the wrong roads and not your aligned path.
  3. You’re taking care of things you don’t actually want. Those things are taking up space in your life and mind, draining your energy, just creating a lot to do while you grow tired.
  4. You’re not taking care of yourself, not tending to your energy needs. This leaves you feeling like crap to put it simply. You go-go-go but feel awful. Which again, opens the door for limiting beliefs, negative thoughts, saying yes to things you want to say no to but it feels like too much work. You just keep moving in circles, never tending to what you want. It’s much more difficult to stay positive and pursue your passion if you’re wore out, sick or tired.
  5. Are you ignoring what actually calls you? Because of any of the above? This creates pressure, fills your life with distractions and just wears on your spirit. You know you’re meant for more but you’re denying yourself the joy of pursuing it.

As a sensitive you share the awesome traits of being loyal and responsible. But if you were “forced” to grow up fast, tend to a negligent parent, or take on responsibilities as a child to help keep the peace in your home – you may to this day be living out patterns that are not serving you when it comes to loyalty and responsibility.

Taking on everyone’s everything, draining your time and energy instead of going after those big dreams of yours! UGH!

Add your ego to the mix – and it can feel very frustrating, like there’s no other way for you – but I’m telling you there is. You can change any pattern that is not serving you once you identify it, bring presence to it and add the right strategies.

if you’ve been experiencing low energy, low feelings or even depression and any of the reasons above are tugging at you – you are being called to your higher purpose. You are here for more and you can absolutely have it.

A few questions to consider if you’re feeling that way…

  1. How long are you willing to wait for what you want? How long will you keep doing things the same way knowing they can be different?
  2. How is living with this pattern affecting you? Your energy? Your confidence?
  3. What is it costing you to stay the same? If things don’t change, if you don’t change?
  4. Why is it okay for you to settle for the way things are if you don’t like them the way they are?

A better option for you…

Join IMPACT and get the right support and resources to help you change the pattern to one that serves you and keeps you feeling your brightest, happiest self!

Sensitives from all over are joining forces in this great space to make a real impact in a world that so badly needs more healing, more understanding and compassion. And empowered sensitives, YOU are here to deliver!

It’s time to own the power of being yourself!

How much time do you spend feeling bad about who you are – or, who you think you need to be?
 
Real talk. Everyone is so hyper-focused on changing who they are. That’s all people do is try to change.
 
I think the brave thing – – is to be YOURSELF and people can take it or leave it. Accept the consequences of being the real you.
 
Isn’t it better than working so damn hard to change who you are to become someone you’re not? How much time do you spend feeling bad about who you are – or, who you think you need to be?
 
In this week’s show I’m sharing why + how this happens and signs you’re not being the real you or – that you’re ready to step into the real you! 🔥🔥🔥It’s time to own the power of being yourself!

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Signs You’re Not Being The Real You – or you’re ready to step into the real you!

  1. You feel unfulfilled. Everything has lost its luster. What used to feel “okay” no longer does, nothing seems to light you up anymore.
  2. Life is feeling harder by the day. You have to push your way through. You no longer wake with any kind of enthusiasm for life, in fact, you’re just trying to figure out how to get through the day.
  3. You see what you want all around you but not in your own life. It seems like everywhere you turn, someone has what you want. This can leave you feeling down, lonely, in lack.
  4. You’re disconnected from the people in your life. It may even feel like you don’t know them at all or that they don’t speak your language, they don’t get you.
  5. You’re looking for “something else” even if you don’t know what that is exactly. All you know is what you have, what you’re doing isn’t doing it for you anymore.

If you’re feeling this and want to sort through things, you don’t have to do it alone. Book a call and let’s discuss where you’re at, what you’re feeling and what you want to be seeing and feeling instead + the plan to make it happen.

When People You Care About Refuse To Grow With You

What happens when you level up but the people in your life resist, push-back or just flat out won’t grow with you? How do you stay on the rise on your elevator to enlightenment?

This can be so challenging, frustrating even heart-breaking!
As you grow of course you want your family, friends, significant other, spouse and clients to join you on your path to empowerment – but they are not always ready.

5 things you DON’T do.

  1. Try to force them, your point, your growth on them. You’ve had your journey, they get to have their own. If and when they’re ready, they’ll make a move. Until that happens, don’t push what you want for them on them or they will push back.
  2. Pull back or slow your own role to make them more at ease or comfortable. This doesn’t help anyone involved. It will create feelings like resentment, disappointment and even anger if you want to grow but you’re putting yourself on hold.
  3. Focus more on them than you. If you get fixated on what they’re doing, not doing, could be or should be doing according to your own standards it really creates a wall of resistance for everyone. Again, this helps no one, and you will not continue to progress at the pace you could be.
  4. Fall into a pattern of start-grow-stop. This is horrendous for your energy and results. Eventually it will mess with your confidence, health and consistency.
  5. Give up or settle. Need I say why on this one?

6 things you MUST do.

  1. Focus on self. It’s all you baby. Keep your eye on the prize, that being you. What do you want, need? What lights you up? Do more and more of that. You’ll feel it and want more and who knows, that person you want to grow with you, they may want some of that too.
  2. Find and surround yourself with people who are growing like you are or ahead of you, people who are already where you want to be. This is so much easier to share your dreams and visions with people who get you and get where you’re headed.
  3. Keep going! Even if it means you must leave someone where they are on their path. They may come around, catch up but until then, just keep growing. It’s really the best way to help anyone is by first helping yourself anyway.
  4. Create your future vision. What do you want? Who do you want to be? What will that magical dream future look and feel like for you? This gives your soul room to grow and your ego no where to go but silent.
  5. Listen and get right with your soul. Your soul didn’t sign up to stay stagnant. It knows where you’re headed and what you’re here to do. Honor that part of you. Roam, explore and soar to your next level. You may inspire other people who are counting on you to keep growing!
  6. Get support. This is so huge. Stop trying to go it alone, convince people who don’t get it or may never get it what you’re doing and why. Find a mentor or coach who has already figured this stuff out and learn.

Want my help with this to make YOUR IMPACT in the world?

Knowing all of this is one step but implementing, sticking to it, embodying your full empowerment – that takes practice and support so you don’t run the risk of falling into that pattern I talked about.

You know you’re meant for more, and if you’re feeling any of my points today – they’re not feeling good I’m sure.

LET’S CHANGE THAT! Apply to work with me in my IMPACT PRIVATE MEMBERSHIP.

You absolutely don’t have to do this alone and I do get exactly what you’re feeling whatever that is. Because I have been there. Where you are.

And now I’m here. Fully empowered, living my best life, doing my best to make it better every day. And I can show you how to get from there to here. And it can be fun!

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